Remembrance Sunday

Angel Hill Remembrance 2026

 As I looked around yesterday at the enormous crowd lining Angel Hill and the roads leading into it, I was impressed with the size of the gathering, and their collective  calm and thoughtful mood. Perhaps, like me, they were thinking of WW2 if they were elderly, or of war generally, of which there is plenty around globally. We were all there because yesterday, November 8^th, was Remembrance Sunday, kept as a day to commemorate the contribution of British and Commonwealth military and civilian forces in the two World Wars and later conflicts. It is held on the second Sunday nearest to November 11^th, Armistice Day, the anniversary of the end of hostilities in WW1 in 1918.

Honouring fallen heroes.

It is marked by ceremonies at local war memorials in most cities, towns and villages, attended by civic dignitaries, ex-servicemen and women; members of the local armed forces, both regular and reserve; military cadet forces and youth organisations such as the Boy Scouts, Girl Guides, Boys’ Brigade and Girls’ Brigade; all are involved as are representatives of the Judiciary. Two minutes’ silence is observed and church bells, usually muffled, add a sombre, mournful note.

Remembrance Service in Bury Cathedral

The focus of remembrance for the dead of WW1 originally fell on Armistice Day itself, commencing in 1919 when National Service events were staged at town and village war memorials, often featuring processions of civic dignitaries and military veterans. The first UK commemoration of the end of WW1 took place at Buckingham Palace with King Georg V hosting a “Banquet in honour of the President of the French Republic” in the evening of November 10, 1919.  The first official Armistice Day events were subsequently held in the grounds of the Palace on the morning of 11^th November 1919, and this included a two minutes’ silence at 11.00 a.m. as a mark of respect for both those who died in the war and for those left behind. While the initial public reaction when the Armistice was signed on Nov 11^th, 1918, was jubilation and celebration, the 1919 banquet was criticized as being too celebratory.

In the following year, Armistice Day in 1920, the funeral of The Unknown Soldier took place at the London Cenotaph; buses were halted; electricity was cut to tramlines and even trading on the London

1945 poster.

Stock Exchange was stopped. A two-minute silence was observed throughout the nation. Starting in 1921, the Royal British Legion began selling Remembrance poppies to raise funds for ex-servicemen. Throughout the 1920s and 1930s, the character of remembrance became more politicised; for some, Armistice Day was a day for recognizing the horrors of war, never to be repeated; for others the day symbolized the honour of military service.

Both the elderly who remember WW2 and youngsters
who are learning about the Armistice commemoration
gather together.

Peace and pacifism occupied much of public discussion during the Thirties, unsurprising following a brutal world war which had left record numbers of dead and wounded. A Christian-Pacifist M.P. was elected to Parliament in 1923 and by the mid-1930s the Peace Pledge Union was gaining wide support. In 1933 an Oxford University Union debate aroused great interest and the student body voted for a resolution that “this House will in no circumstances fight for King and Country.” In the same year the Co-operative Women’s Guild sold white poppies in remembrance. During WW2, the commemoration continued though the celebrations were moved to the Sunday preceding November 11as an emergency measure to avoid disruption to the week-day factory production of vital war materials.

In May 1945, just before VE day [Victory in Europe Day] the new government began consultation with the British Legion on the future of Remembrance. In fact, Armistice Day happened to fall on a Sunday

V.E. DAY IN 1945.

that year, avoiding the need to change wartime practice. One strand of thought held that to continue with the November 11 date would seem to focus more on WW1 and, by implication, downplay the importance of WW2. Other dates were suggested: May 8 [VE Day]; June 6, [D-Day]; August 15 [VJ Day]; September 3 [outbreak of WW2]; even June 15^th [the signing of the Magna Carta in 1215] Finally, the Archbishop of Westminster proposed that the second Sunday in November should be named Remembrance Sunday in commemoration of both world wars and this suggestion was endorsed by the Home Office in January 1946, with the Prime Minister, Clement Attlee, announcing in the House of Commons in June of that year, that “the Government felt that this view would commend itself to all.”

 

Two small girls joining in the celebrations, in the midst
of the rubble of a bombed building in Battersea.

Sailors with their girlfriends celebrating The Day

Let's all go down The Strand.
V.E.Day 1945.

Abbreviations and Dates.

VE Day   Victory in Europe Day May 8^th.

D-Day    A Military codename for Operation Overlord, the Normandy invasion, the largest                   seaborne invasion in history, June 6^th, 1944.                    

VJ Day   Victory in Japan Day August 15^th.

3^rd September 1939     Declaration of the beginning of the Second World War.

1215   The signing of the Magna Carta.  June 15th.

Drawing of Vanessa Bell

Final drawing of Vanessa Bell by
Duncan Grant in April 1961.

 A newly discovered portrait of Vanessa Bell by her partner and friend, Duncan Grant, is the final depiction of her before she died, experts say. The pen and biro drawing has been given to  Charleston, the art museum based in their former residence near Lewes, by an anonymous donor. The drawing depicts Bell, sister of Virginia Woolf and a celebrated Bloomsbury artist in her own right, as she lay dying from bronchitis in her countryside home. It was found during preparations for a new exhibition about the couple at the Tate Britain. Bell was 81 when she died on 7 April 1961, and Grant dated the portrait to the following week. He lived for another 17 years without the woman his biographer, Frances Spalding, called his “life partner”.

 

Art critic, Clive Bell.

Dr Sophie Pickford specialist in the Bloomsbury group at Cambridge University, said the portrait was “extraordinarily moving” and captured a “last moment of physical connection” between the couple. Grant and Bell were artists who worked side by side, sometimes on the same canvas. Bell was married to the art critic Clive Bell and Grant was in a relationship with the economist John Maynard Keynes. According to Christopher Jones, a researcher at UCL working on the Bloomsbury group, that relationship only strengthened their bond. “Duncan’s queerness meant his relationship with Vanessa was always something else. But they were the most stable people in each other’s lives.”

Duncan Grant self-portrait 1909

In 1918, Grant and Bell had a child together, Angelica Garnett, whose paternity was hidden from her until she turned 18. In her memoir, she wrote that finding out Grant was her real father left her “unable to contain the feeling that, with such a father, I had been marked for a special destiny”. 

Interest in Grant and Bell seems to be surging. From 12 November, many of their works will go on display at Tate Britain for the new exhibition Vanessa Bell & Duncan Grant: Inside Bloomsbury, and the pair are currently main characters in the new James Graham play The Standard of Living. But their popularity is no surprise to Pickford. “There’s something about the spontaneity of the way they created their art, and created their own worlds around them, that is enticing to people,” she said. “It’s raw and energetic. They are an amazing vehicle through which to consider for oneself what is a good life.”

Angelica Garnett as a girl.

 Grant painted Bell throughout her life, but this newly unearthed drawing is “the coda in the 50 years of portraiture that he did of her”, said Darren Clarke, the head of collections at Charleston. “It has the power of those moments when you’re waiting to say goodbye,” he said. It was previously thought that a charcoal drawing from earlier in 1961 was the final portrait of Bell economist, John Maynard Keynes.

Photo of Vanessa Bell by Roger Fry 1916.

Obama/Trump and The Iran War.

 

                                                     Obama/Trump and the Iran war

Obama has criticized Trump’s diplomatic strategy regarding the Iran war, describing his administration as ‘not serious people’ and pointing out that the main problem is that the rest of us pay the price ultimately for their lack of seriousness. He also criticized Trump for ignoring, or unravelling, diplomacy as he plunged the U.S. into an unnecessary conflict. Although the Iran war isn’t on a grand scale, the

The new opulent White House ballroom in place, Trump's
latest fantasy for which the historic East Wing was demolished.

U.S. and Israeli strikes against Iran began in late February and have continued for nearly eight months, causing the deaths of 21 American service members with 865 wounded. The conflict has caused Iran to close the Strait of Hormuz leading directly to higher global oil and diesel prices. Obama said the Iran war could have been avoided because his [Obama’s] administration 2015 Iran Nuclear Deal prevented Iran from acquiring nuclear weapons. However, Trump had withdrawn the U.S. from the Iran Nuclear Deal in 2018, saying it allowed Iran to continue enriching uranium. Meanwhile, U.S. polls show widespread voter desire to end the war and considerable dissatisfaction with Trump's tactics.                                                                                                        

Trump arriving to campaign.

There have also been renewed questions on social media about Trump's mental state. During a recent Press session, Trump repeatedly snapped at Andrew Feinberg, The Independent's White House correspondent, ordering him 'to pipe down', warning him to 'be careful' and labelling him 'a sick person'. "Wait, wait, wait, wait. Quiet, quiet!" Trump said as he sat behind the Resolute Desk. "What's wrong with you? Are you a sick person? I actually think there's something wrong with you."

Obama, campaigning.

Huge turnout for rallies for former President, Barack Obama, in Ohio and Michigan last Saturday illustrated the changing mood of the country. In Cleveland, Obama rallied voters behind Democratic candidate for the U.S.Senate, Sherrod Brown and gubernatorial candidate, Amy Acton. In Michigan, he rallied voters for Democratic Jocelyn Benson, current secretary of state for Michigan and Democratic candidate for the U.S. Senate, Dr. Abdul El-Sayed. Obama told the listeners that El-Sayed was "fighting for change, real change, that will get money out of politics into your pocket. It would finish the job we started with the Affordable Care Act and guarantee quality, affordable healthcare to every single American."  He called out Trump's corruption, "enriching himself and his family" and selling favours.

Paving over the White House Rose Garden lawn installed 
by the Kennedys.

Obama also poked fun at Trump, belittling Trump's fight with "that well-known evil empire, Canada" subtly reminding listeners of Ronald Reagan's phrase, "evil empire" to describe Russia, Trump's current partner. He clearly enjoyed ridiculing Trump's White House projects, saying he should be on  HGTV, a cable network which focussed on home improvement and interior design. Trump has had the East Wing of the White House demolished to make room for a huge, opulent ballroom lavishly decorated with gold: has had the Rose Garden paved over and added the installation of two statues: has replaced columns in the North Portico in the White House grounds and  made liberal use of gold in the refurbished decor                                                                                         overall. It has been suggested that Trump has tried to                                                                                   turn the White House into a version of his mansion at                                                                                Mar-a- Lago.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      

Robust public comment.

Cartoon comment on Trump's activities.
Ostensibly a diagnosis by a psychiatrist.

A Partial History of Bury St Edmunds and its Abbey

                                            

Buck's engraving of the view from the east, of Bury St Edmunds in 1726-42.
Buck's engravings of castles and townscapes were famous and fashionable. Made by
the brothers Samuel and Nathanial Buck, leading topographical draughtsmen
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"A city more neatly seated the Sun never saw, so curiously doth it hang up a gentle descent, with a little river on the east side; nor a monastery more noble, whether one considers the endowments, largeness or unparalleled magnificence. One might think even the monastery alone, a city: so many gates it has, so many towers, and a church, than which nothing can be more magnificent; as appendages to which, there are three more, of admirable beauty and workmanship, in the same churchyard." 

 John Leland, describing Bury St Edmunds Abbey in 1539, shortly before it was destroyed. 

 Before England was unified under one king, Bury St Edmunds (then known as Beodricsworth) was in the kingdom of East Anglia. East Anglians were converted to Christianity in the reign of Sigeberth (c.630–40), who was said to have retired to a monastery. Not long afterwards he was killed when his kingdom was attacked by Penda, King of Mercia. Later generations believed that the monastery he retired to was at Beodricsworth. 

Hellesdon Parish Church
Built in the 15th century.

 Edmund was a Christian king of the East Angles who reigned from about 855 to 869. Little is known of his life, other than that Danes invaded his kingdom in 869 and killed him. Within a generation of his death, he was revered as a martyr. Around 985–8 a French monk, Abbo of Fleury, wrote an idealised life of St Edmund, portraying him as a saintly ruler who died for his faith. Abbo describes how Edmund was tied to a tree, shot full of arrows and then beheaded. When supporters went looking for his body, they found a wolf guarding the head at a place called Haegelidun and recent research has identified its possible location as a field formerly called Hellesden Ley, about 6 miles from Bury. Edmund’s remains were moved from their original burial place to a new church at Bury at some point between about 889 and 945. A large wooden church was built to house his remains, and Edmund, King of England gave it large estates ostensibly ensuring its long and wealthy life. However, in 1020 King Cnut (1016–35) sponsored a rebuilding of the church which he felt was necessary! A stone rotunda, which stood until the late 13th century, was added to the wooden church to house the shrine of the saint. A community of Benedictine monks replaced the priests who had served the old church and the first abbot, Ulvius, was consecrated.

Artist's impression of Bury St Edmunds's Abbey in 12th/13th centuries.

King Edward the Confessor (1042–66) visited Bury in 1044. He greatly increased the abbey’s privileges, giving it jurisdiction over about a third of the county of Suffolk. This area became known as the Liberty of St Edmund, and within it, the abbot of Bury exercised complete civil authority. The abbey also owned most of the churches in the area. These sources generated large revenues, which made the abbey one of the wealthiest monastic communities in England.

Town map of Bury St Edmunds in the time of 
Abbott Baldwin. 11th century.

In 1065 the monks elected Edward the Confessor’s French-born doctor, Baldwin, as Abbot. He proved an energetic leader, who raised the number of monks from 20 to 80. Baldwin resisted attempts by the Bishop of East Anglia to move his see (the seat of his bishopric) from Thetford to Bury, which would have given the Bishop control over the abbey. In 1071 Baldwin travelled to Rome and won the support of Pope Alexander II for Bury’s independence, which William the Conqueror also supported. The bishops of East Anglia moved to Norwich instead, but the rivalry between them and the abbots of Bury persisted
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The Abbey's wealth and newly acquired status inspired Abbot Baldwin to begin rebuilding the church around 1080, on a scale worthy of St Edmund's shrine using fine quality building stone which was brought especially from Barnack in Northamptonshire. In 1095 the first stage, the Eastern arm of the huge new Abbey church, was finished and St Edmund's remains were ceremonially transferred from the old rotunda to a shrine there.

After Baldwin's death in 1097, the Eastern arm of the church was extended, making it longer than that of Norwich Cathedral, suggesting that the extension was done in a spirit of competition. Certainly, it was gigantic as it towered over King Cnut's round church. Work on the church then continued from east to west with the nave of the church built as far as the West front under Abbot Anselm.(1121-48) The spectacular west front was finally completed around the turn of the 13th century under Abbot Samson (1182-1211) who added a great central tower and lower octagonal towers to either side. At just over 500 feet (152 metres) long the church was now the fourth longest in Christendom. Its huge scale testified to the Abbey's great wealth and proclaimed the abbots' pride and sense of independence. The cloisters and the buildings around it were completed in the 12th century and soon afterwards, the abbey precinct was greatly extended blocking one of the major streets of the Saxon town.

Abbot Baldwin had built a large parish church to the west of the abbey church which ultimately meant that the parish church had to be demolished to make way for the new west front! Extraordinarily, Abbot Anselm replaced the vanished parish church with two more churches on the edge of the enlarged precinct which were both rebuilt in the later Middle Ages and survive today; St James as the Cathedral Church of St Edmondsbury and St Mary's as the town's main parish church.

Current view of the Cathedral and the Abbey ruins.

 

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Reading Aloud To Children

 

It's all there!

An article in the current New Statesman on reading to children both caught my eye and triggered memories. Not that I had any such parental memories from childhood; I never experienced it nor did any of my friends, I think, though mature consideration tells me that indeed I did receive the pleasure of an adult reading aloud to me [and other children]. My parents certainly didn’t read to me and my sisters during our childhood, though I, as the eldest, often read to the other two, an activity which I greatly enjoyed. To be fair, I didn't know of any parents among my friends, who did  read to their kids. But I still do remember Miss Betts; she was the fearsome form teacher of the primary [St Edwards] Top Class and taught us all the subjects, in the manner then, of primary teaching. We pupils were all careful in our behaviour with Miss Betts, that is to say, we tiptoed along the continuum from being nervous, to terrified, of Miss Betts whose appearance might have been unconsciously calculated to intimidate! She  dressed, chiefly in black, in long concealing clothes which reached to her ankles. Her hair was disciplined into a tight grey 'bun' at the back of her head and I only seem to recall her frowns  not her smiles. In other words, to us, Miss Betts' appearance [and indeed, her personality] suggested that of a sniper, resting watchfully!

This image captures the experience for the audience
though not the visual image of the majestic Miss Betts.

In every Friday afternoon of my last year at Primary School, the last longed-for lesson of the week involved the teacher reading aloud the current book to us. HOW I loved it these sessions and waited for Friday afternoons to come round eagerly, whatever the book. One Friday, I had had to go home at lunchtime to see to my mother who was seriously ill in bed with pleurisy. 'Going home' meant quite a long walk at each end of the journey and I had done the first part of food to Mum but still have strong memories of the dash to catch the bus to get back to afternoon school. I was on tenterhooks with anxiety that I might get back and miss The Reading by Miss Betts.

 My memories are strongest of Miss B. reading The Cloister and The Hearth by Charles Reade, an historical novel published in 1861. I have absolutely no recollection of the text, but I discover now that it is set in 15^th century Europe and follows Gerard Eliassoen, a young scribe, as his journey takes him far away from his beloved Margaret. When false news of her death reaches him, Gerard’s path leads him towards the Church, setting up a profound conflict between earthly love and religious duty. The book explores the collision between family devotion and clerical obligation across a vividly rendered mediaeval landscape. My love of this book, because of Miss Betts' dramatic readings, caused my ever helpful mother to buy me a copy for my Christmas stocking and I have it still! It remains chiefly incomprehensible but I was thrilled to receive it at the time.

Engrossed!

Frankly, this does not sound like a book for a ten-year-old, but I was bewitched by it and especially by Miss Betts’ reading of it. In retrospect, I think it was Miss Betts’ reading aloud more than the actual narrative, which captivated me. And now I recall that there were around 50 ten-year-olds in that class, all listening, spell-bound, to the story. Much later, when I taught secondary school English Language and Literature, I too read the class current novel to fourteen- and fifteen-year-olds and again, the magic of a story of being read aloud to the group always had a similar, almost magical, effect. Reluctant readers and skillful readers alike, among the pupils, were always, SO eager to have the story read aloud. AND a similar effect was always produced with my own young children when I read from their books of choice before bedtime every evening.

Frankly, on a daily basis, reading to my kids seemed a bit of a chore when preparing the evening meal for my husband and me loomed large! AND yet, I really enjoyed doing it each time. The quiet cadences caught and enchanted them as they quietened and listened and shuffled closer together, eyes fixed on me with minds on the narrative. I doubt that now, half a century later, that they can even recall those ‘close together’ times while listening to stories read aloud, forging instinctive memories and sensations of family closeness and magical stories. I did try several times, to persuade my husband to take my place but he always demurred. I think the idea of reading aloud to his children made him somehow uncomfortable, and he did not appreciate the value of doing so, to his relationship with them. A key disincentive for him, which I didn't consider at the time, was the mere fact that he didn't himself enjoy reading. He could do it but didn't choose to do it, for pleasure, for himself. 

Rural reading outdoors, together, enhances the story.

To him, it was a Mum chore; to me it was a wasted bonding opportunity for him. The NielsenIQ survey found that 40% of parents thought reading to their children was fun while 35% of parents said they didn't enjoy reading at all and never did it for pleasure.If parents find reading to their children is fun, then there is an increased chance of the children also loving it or finding it fun. Looking down from my present elderly heights, I can see that some work may be waiting to be done by parents!         

I discover that there are interesting supportive statistics to be had! A 2025 survey by the book data company, NielsenQ and publisher, HarperCollins, found that just 41% of children aged 0-4 are frequently read to. This is a sad statistic for it suggests that around 60% do not have the real bonding pleasure of being read to by an adult. Interestingly, a similar exercise in 2012 recorded 64%. Today, it must be increasingly difficult to entice children away from tablets, computers and phones to the apparently less dynamic, less seductive book. And yet …. And yet …..  While alternative temptations are legion, caring adults must keep reading to any available children!.       

Dolly Parton at 80, a few months before her death.
She created the Imagination Library

I do like the sound of the Imagination Library started by Dolly Parton in 1995 in memory of her father who could neither read nor write. The programme sends a free book each month to every child who signs up, until their fifth birthday.  It has delivered over 300 million books worldwide and on September 22nd of this year, [a month after Dolly Parton’s death] it was announced that the scheme would be expanding in the UK, widening access to books to 157,000 more children.  This is unbelievably brilliant both in concept and deed, especially so coming from such lowly beginnings.  A fine and imaginative use of fame and an impressive testament to Parton's life journey.                                                                                                                                                                                      

 Post Script

When I was a young teacher, school, even classroom, libraries were rare and so I started a class library for my form, donating my own books and occasionally buying one or two when I could afford to. I noticed that one particular book was loved by one boy and so, one day, I told him that it was my own book and he was welcome to have it for himself.  I remember still how shocked I was by his answer.

"I'd love it Miss, but no thanks. I daren't take it home 'cos my Dad burns books."

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Proposed Technical Education Reforms.

 

The academic path of GCSEs, A Levels and undergraduate degree courses is generally well understood by the general public, but the technical education system is less familiar and can seem complex to newly-engaged students, parents and employers. It is intended that employers should be at the heart of the national technical education system and the Government is working closely with businesses to ensure that, with the current reforms, technical education will meet the needs of both employers and individuals, to fill the skills gaps faced by our economy.

Andy Burnham whose government is seeking
to revive and embellish the concept of
technical education.

The current proposed technical education reforms aim to provide young people with access to technical education pathways from the age of 14. Announced last week by Andy Burnham, the Prime Minister, the reforms are seeking to create clearer routes into employment, apprenticeships or further study. The new pathways will allow students to combine core academic subjects with high-quality technical education linked to jobs available in their area. This approach will involve collaborations between schools, colleges, regional mayors, local leaders and employers to shape education around local industries and growth sectors.These new technical education programmes and routes are set to be rolled out from September 2028, with Ofsted inspections of vocational offerings planned. The Government's plan reflects a commitment to recognising the value of technical education and ensuring that it is universally respected by students, parents and employers. Thus the overall aims of the proposed reforms in technical education are: 

a) to ensure that academic and technical pathways are held in equal esteem. 

 b) to reduce the complexity of the system.

 c) to ensure it meets the needs of industry.

Pathways provide clear choices.

Pathways to Reform.

The 16-19 pathways to reforms are focussed on three key principles:

a) ensuring that students progress to positive outcomes

b) qualifications gained are high quality and will adapt to future skills needs.

c) pathways provide clear choices.

The Government's ambition is that, when all reform qualifications are introduced, every student entering post 16 education will have a clear choice of high quality pathways..At Level 2 for instance, this means either a Foundation Certificate or an Occupational Certificate and at Level 3, the choice is between A Levels, V Levels and T Levels.It is the central ambition of this reform  programme to ensure that the reformed landscape meets the aspirations of all students for whatever they want to go on to do. This includes the option of apprenticeships for those young people who prefer to gain skills  and knowledge while in the workplace.

Career opportunities open up with technical education.

If these current reforms to technical education are successful, it will be the first major success in linking the world of work and of education for post 16 year olds. There have been a number of attempts to introduce Technical Education which have been partially useful to the young people involved but, when I was involved in the 1960s with TVEI or TVET, despite good intentions and sound educational programmes, there was a degree of ignorance both in industry and education of what 'the other' intended to achieve and might be able to achieve. Some form of training or mutual co-introduction for representatives of both worlds might well be useful. Have the young people involved in this vital bridge between the worlds of work and study been involved in any way? Perhaps the most urgent need is to publicise the concept of the necessity of technical education in an attempt to raise its universal value for all students across the                                                                                        ability range and their families.

Reaching 90 is A Big Deal.

 

Old Friends for decades.  

 

As I have reached 90 plus, I have decided to check out the normal symptoms of what I think of as ‘upper ageing’ to reassure myself that I am On the Right Path. I do the tick-box exercise online with confidence as I assume I must be doing something right even though most aspects of my way of life are not consciously planned or considered or engineered. I tend to live as I always have, putting one foot in front of the other, thinking often of that day’s timetable; staying active by maximising my walking [at least 30 minutes plus each day]; playing Mah Jong twice a week because I not only enjoy it but also because I believe the ageing mind needs exercise too! I also enjoy the supervision and help of a Personal Trainer for a 40 minute weekly session which forces me to do a concentrated exercise slot I would otherwise not think of. I don't exactly enjoy it but finish thankfully exhausted and slightly smug!

Mah Jong

I believe I am lucky in that I do not have what is conventionally called ‘a sweet tooth’ so I don’t even contemplate buying cakes or biscuits or pies though if the occasion occurs when I am offered a small piece of apple pie, then I always gratefully accept the treat as a lifelong and devoted apple pie lover! This does not occur often enough, but when it does, eating the a/m apple pie simply allows me to happily confirm one aspect of my life and is at least delicious! And being able to accept presents/tributes/gifts is to acknowledge how lucky and grateful I am in later life to have others kind enough to think of indulging me on occasion. I admit that I find it much more difficult to refuse savoury snacks like peanuts [love ‘em] or cheesy nibbles et al where more robust tactics of denial are called for.But to return specifically to the nineties.According to that modern God, the Internet, the following conditions routinely occur in the nineties:

         Mild memory loss. Correct. Maddening and slightly shaming to the person experiencing it, when confronted with a dear friend of several years’ standing whose name has mysteriously gone AWOL.

Vi  Vision decline. Accounts for my developing habit of  processing speed. Glad to learn that this is normal as it makes the sufferer feel particularly       

4.      Hearing loss.                                                      peering and frowning at objects, Slower

Grand-daughter explains .....

I have worn hearing aids resentfully for months, perhaps a year, and continue to find them
irritating but necessary. They also cause me as the wearer, to touch, fiddle with, adjust them in a bid to improve the received sound while observers like family members wonder why the old girl is always messing with her hearing aids which seem to be pretty useless anyway.

TTThere are other social, emotional, and daily living adjustments to make too as one embarks on the nineties. To reduce these important areas to a little list seems almost disrespectful to the nonagenarian, but                                                                                   here goes:

a)                                Changes in appetite and digestion. b)  Reduced energy levels. c)  Shifts in social                                   engagement.  d) Increased need for assistance. 

      These changes may be considerable or silently gradual, but the key to success lies, as ever, in the willingness of the individual to persevere, adjust and adapt. Per ardua ad astra as the old RAF motto had it and in the successful adjustment to age-change and its potential demands, lies elderly contentment and good health.

I haven’t yet mentioned the necessity of a good diet, [Mediterranean? Italian? Avoiding processed foods?], and the profound importance of keeping active, not necessarily with working out in the gym, but certainly in walking every day or perhaps cycling or gardening, if either is a familiar habit. The real temptation of sitting comfortably at the laptop for hours and writing/typing is seductive but needs to be resisted in excess! Perhaps the most important factor in the continuum from useful to essential, is social

I discover this display can be described as
Pescatarian; a great diet.

It is imperative to cultivate and maintain social connections. In fact, at any age, staying connected with others is the single most important contribution to leading a good and happy life and is also, sadly, the hardest to achieve for many elderly people, many of whom have seen friends and close family members die or move far away. Joining a local group, perhaps a U3A group, or starting a group, is a way in to feeling connected and finding potential friends with similar interests but this entails making the effort in the first place. Soon after I arrived in Bury,  I put a local advertisement suggesting people might be interested in joining me to start a Mah Jong group or to learn how to play Mah Jong from an admitted amateur, and received eight replies. Thus, almost immediately, I found enough interest to start two Mah Jong tables-worth of games and the beginnings of a social circle.

 

90 year old Iris Apfel, a model known for her bold but impeccable style
Lived to age 102.

Unknown 90 year old with a zest for life!

Two 90+ friends enjoying a quiet walk.

A rather idealised view of old folks
sitting on a bench in harmonious colour!